Addict Gone

n a child is born parents expect to do many things for their greater good. It is never the intention of a parent to need to witness the death of their own child. Parents that have lived through this traumatic experience will tell you that they never fully recovered. This is because the cycle of life is intended that children can attend to the final needs and wishes of the parents, not the opposite way around. No matter the age of the child it is most likely that they would disire for their parent to return to life and try to seek as much happiness as possible under the circumstances. Furthermore, society will not take care of you forever and the need to return to a certain amount of normal living becomes practical necessity.

Certainly the emotional stress will have an impact upon you for several months if not years after the passing. Each individual will cope with the loss differently and no to cases are the same. It is important to remember that you are not alone in your loss. Others have experienced the same emotions and survived. Look only at one step of the journey at a time. Looking too far into the future can cause desperation and depression. Instead, focus on the second that you are currently experiencing and make the choice to honor your child through the services and work that you perform. It will be difficult in the beginning to concentrate and stay on task, but in time the idea that your work is a testimony to the love in your heart for your departed child will most likely provide you with the certain level of comfort needed to carry on with what needs to be completed. Ultimately the past can only have power over you if you make an allowance for it to have that power.

While it is certainly not entirely the same, when I lost my daughter to abortion in 1995 I didn’t think I would be able to carry on. Now, in my work as a life coach and minister I understand the need to honor her with everything that I do. I bring the memory of her to work with me every day. That memory gives me the strength to continue on serving and helping others. I know that it is what she would want and disire from me and for me. Some days are more difficult than other days. You never completely get over the loss of a child, you just learned how to work around the memory and embrace the fact that they had the pleasure to grace your life at one time. It is important to stay busy because memories tend to take over when hands are idle.

Even more than a decade later there are times when the memory of her comes to me and I can feel that tears are coming foward. I embrace those moments to, because I think that ultimately this might be her way of expressing her sorrow from the other side. It’s not to say that I completely allow the emotions to take over my day, but I do honor them when they arise unexpectedly.I choose to view her as my guardian angel, lending the guidance to every step that I take. This brings me a tremendous since of piece and allows me to still except her as an important part of my life.Luckily for me I am self-employed and have the ability to take appropriate time when needed for reflection. If you do not have this blessing of luxury make sure that you make time to reflect upon the memory of your child. Failure to do this important task will eventually: cause a tremendous overflow of emotion that may be detrimental to your physical and emotional health.